The Belly Pic

28 Jan

So I am going to post a belly pic. Yes, I was overweight before I got pregnant. No, there isn’t more than one unless you know something we don’t. No, I don’t care how big you were at this stage in your pregnancy unless you were EXACTLY THE SAME SIZE.

Also, before I post the picture, I want you to read this “Letter to all the non pregnant people out there…” that I originally found here. Keep these things in mind when commenting.

Dear Non-Pregnant Person,

I hope you find these guidelines helpful in your interactions with pregnant women as failing to follow them may result in serious physical harm. If you are thinking, surely she doesn’t mean me – then you should probably read this twice.

1. The appropriate response to a couple telling you they are having a baby is “Congratulations!” with enthusiasm. Any other response makes you an ass!!!

2. Through the wonders of science, we now know that babies are made ONLY by the mother and father – not grandparents. Unless the baby is in your uterus or you are the man that helped put it there, you may not ever use the phrase “my baby”.

3. On the same note, unless you made the baby as defined in 2, the pregnancy, birth and raising of the child are not about you. You do not have input. No one wants to hear your opinion unless they ask for it.

4. The body of a pregnant women should be treated the same as any other body. You would not randomly touch someone’s stomach if they were not pregnant, nor would you inquire into the condition of their uterus, cervix or how they plan to use their breasts. Pregnancy does not remove all traces of privacy from a woman.

5. Likewise, no women wants to hear comments on her weight – ever. A pregnant woman does not find it flattering that you think she is about is pop, must be having twins, looks swollen or has gained weight in her face. Telling her she looks too small only makes her worry that she is somehow starving her baby. Making such comments invite her to critique your physical appearance and you may not act offended. The only acceptable comment on appearance is “You look fabulous!”.

6. By the time we are 20-30 years old, most of us have picked up on the fact that the summer is hot. We are hot every summer when we are not pregnant. We don’t need you to point out that we will be miserably hot before the baby comes.

7. There is a reason that tickets to Labor & Delivery are not yet sold on Ticketmaster. Childbirth is actually not a public event. It may sound crazy, but some women really do not relish the idea of their mother, MIL or a host of other family members seeing their bare butt and genitals. Also, some people simply feel like the birth of their child is a private and emotional moment to be shared only by the parents.

8. Like everything else in life, unless you receive an invitation, you are NOT invited. This includes doctor appointments, ultrasounds, labor, delivery, the hospital and the parents home. You do not decide if you will be there for the birth or if you will move in with the new parents to “help out”. If your assistance is desired, rest assured that you will be asked for it.

9. If you are asked to help after the birth, this means you should clean up the house, help with cooking meals, and generally stay out of the way. Holding the baby more than the parents, interfering with breastfeeding and sleeping schedules and making a woman who is still leaking fluid from multiple locations lift a finger in housework is not helping.

10. The only people entitled to time with the baby are the parents. Whether they choose to have you at the hospital for the birth or ask for you to wait three weeks to visit, appreciate that you are are being given the privilege of seeing their child. Complaining or showing disappointment only encourages the parents to include you less.


Much Love,
The Pregnant Lady

So without further ado…this is the belly at 15 weeks, 2 days.

Oh and for the record, this is my size medium NON-MATERNITY Aerosmith t-shirt. SO THERE.


17 Responses to “The Belly Pic”

  1. Mary January 28, 2010 at 8:15 pm #

    Yeah, I only had ONE person say something snarky “Are you SURE it’s only one? You’re showing an awful lot.”

    I shot back, “My tits and ass aside, I’m actually fairly petite.”
    Some people…*rolls eyes*

  2. Tracy January 28, 2010 at 10:12 pm #

    Some people lose all sense of decorum around pregnant women. I think you should be allowed to carry a bat. Or walk up to them when they’re doing something else, pat their tummy and say “twins?”

  3. Dave January 28, 2010 at 10:19 pm #

    You look perfectly wonderful and you are hereby commanded to ignore the asshats who feel the need to provide ‘helpful’ comments. Screw ’em. Mommy knows best.

  4. Summeranne January 29, 2010 at 8:10 pm #

    I love your rules! I don’t have kids, but when I do get pregnant, anyone that touches my belly (uninvited) gets maced.

  5. Anella January 30, 2010 at 4:26 pm #

    Lovely photo ♥

    I loved reading that letter. Some people are so rude towards pregnant women, it’s unbelievable. Your bump is cute =]

  6. christie February 3, 2010 at 1:34 am #

    I was actually ABOUT the same size….people would often ask me if I was SURE I wasn’t further along than what the doctor said. People who saw me (and my size) later in my pregnancy would comment that I should have already had that baby. I would cry. It was awful. More people really do need to be more sensitive. I ❤ your baby bump
    Oh, and found you via Nablopomo

  7. Solnushka February 3, 2010 at 9:58 pm #

    Backing away in horror when you say you only have a week to go is also not allowed I think.

    What is it with the touching?

    Anyway, I realise you have a lot on now, but if you feel like it, I have tagged you in a meme.

  8. Jennifer February 20, 2010 at 11:36 pm #

    Love your rules. They are great and so, so true.
    There should be another set of rules of things you are not allowed to say once that sweet baby gets here. Especially by little old ladies in grocery stores who like to make comments about how your child is acting/not acting/should be acting. Don’t judge me!

    By the way, you really do look fantastic. A baby is a beautiful gift and should be treasured by all.

  9. Deanna June 11, 2011 at 11:31 pm #

    I am so glad that you posted this letter…not sure how I got to your blog, but I LOVE THIS LETTER!!! It is exactly what I want to say to some particular people who are interfering in MINE AND MY HUSBANDS SPECIAL is crazy. Another thing to add is people offering pregnancy advice. it is ridiculous how many people offer pregnancy advice to me and I DID NOT ASK!! 🙂 Thanks again! 🙂

  10. Shannon April 13, 2012 at 6:03 pm #

    So glad u posted this. I also was overweight when I got pregnant for my first (due oct 10). I started looking online for pics of what an overweight person should look like at 14-15 weeks…I don’t feel like I have a normal baby belly because I had a belly beforehand. Where is the bump supposed to be? Down low or up higher? I know it’s different for every body but I’m starting to feel like I should be showing but I’m not because I was fat to start with.

    • raisinganarmy May 27, 2012 at 6:48 pm #

      I felt the same way, Shannon! I felt like I just looked chunky instead of pregnant. Within a few weeks it usually starts to even out and you look “pregnant” though. Best of luck to you in your pregnancy!

  11. christine April 25, 2012 at 7:28 pm #

    I also was a bit overweight before I got pregnant. I am 15 weeks and 2 days and am the same exact size! I’ve had so many comments I can’t even count with.. Holy cow you are that big, what are you going to look like at 9 months… I don’t know and frankly, I don’t care! lol.

    • raisinganarmy May 27, 2012 at 6:50 pm #

      People don’t seem to realize that their comments are rude! It’s not polite to comment on someone’s size if they’re not pregnant, why does a baby inside change the rules of etiquette? Honestly, I didn’t get a whole lot bigger than this! When I went in for a NST just before I had my baby the nurses kept saying “Are you SURE you’re 38 weeks? Your belly is so SMALL?” Just. Can’t. WIN.

  12. Bethany May 24, 2012 at 1:14 pm #

    I’m currently 15 weeks, 2 days pregnant. Starting this week, it has become uncomfortable for me to button my pants. My bump is VERY similar to your’s in this picture. I wanted to thank you for writing this because it made me feel better! My mother has been rude… saying that I’m “way too big,” I “must be having twins,” I “shouldn’t be showing this much.” My doctor says that I’m fine and all is well. Also, I love how you mentioned the part about the birth… both of our families seem to think that they’ll be in the delivery room… my husband & I BOTH decided it should be something between the two of us! I’m tired of everyone’s opinion. I realize that I’m a first time mom… but I want to do what I feel is right for my baby & myself. Thanks for posting!

    • raisinganarmy May 27, 2012 at 6:51 pm #

      Bethany, I am so glad that my post helped you! I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy and don’t listen to the rude naysayers! Flaunt that baby bump! You’ve also helped me – you’ve inspired me to start blogging again. I hope you’ll continue to follow me!

  13. Girly B. July 14, 2012 at 3:27 am #

    I am 15 weeks 2 days according to my ultrasound today and last night, someone said to me, “Congrats! I thought you looked chubby. I was wondering and I was lookin’.”!!!!!!!!! Although I have to take this particular character’s comments with a grain of salt and if I told her she really hurt or insulted me, she would totally apologize and feel bad, I still couldn’t believe it!!


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